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Why You Should Question Your Teacher

Mindfulness
I have been thinking a lot lately about gurus, teachers, and leaders – the people we rely on for wisdom and guidance. We listen to them because they can teach us things, make us better people, or help us make the right choices. But what happens when we take their word as absolute? What if they're wrong, but we can't see it because we believe they know best? I've been watching the television show Scientology: The Aftermath, which tells the stories of people who have left the Scientology religion. One thing that stands out, and is true of most cults, is that the followers believe their leader has the final word in all situations. People will blindly follow what the leader says they should do. But why? Because they doubt…
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Five Minute Meditation

Meditation
When you feel like you don't have time to meditate, it's a good idea to sit for five minutes anyway. For one, it keeps you in the habit of meditation. [audio mp3="https://www.melajames.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/06/FiveMinuteCheckin1.mp3"][/audio]
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I Don’t Meditate Every Day

Meditation
I once participated in a 28 day meditation challenge and about halfway through it, I asked a friend who was also participating what she was experiencing and she replied, “I already meditate every day, so...” I was a little surprised – and envious – at her dedication. EVERY DAY, she said. You know who else meditates every day? David Lynch, who says he hasn't missed a meditation since 1973. Wow. You know who DOESN'T meditate every day? Me. I wish I could say I do! Now, sometimes I will accomplish it for several weeks at a time, but often, I'll miss one day… or two… and then maybe even a week goes by. Oops. Now, someone might think this isn't a good trait for a meditation teacher to have. How…
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There is Nothing Wrong with You

Mindfulness
Please note: there is mild profanity in this affirmation. Because sometimes you gotta drop a little bomb to make a big point. ;) If you enjoyed this insight, leave a comment below. And as always, I'd love it if you became a supporter on Patreon! It's ridiculously affordable. [audio src="http://50.116.64.46/~melajame/wp-content/uploads/2017/04/youareperfect.mp3"][/audio]
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The Hyperactive Child

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My first visit to a therapist occurred when I was around 10 years old. I was a terrible student in school and nobody knew what to do with me. I never did my homework, I couldn't sit still, and I drove everybody from my teachers to my parents crazy. They labeled me “hyperactive” and made some suggestions to my mother. I don't remember what, if any, actions were taken. They did not medicate me and they did not give me a special sensory-deprivation desk at school. I think they tried to limit distractions at home, but that did little to nothing. I spent a lot of time in the classroom pretending to find my lost homework, while my teachers and classmates waited. Of course I never found it, because I…
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Dealing with Change

Mindfulness
In this video, I talk about grounding yourself - how do you do that? Always trust yourself. And if you make a mistake, forgive yourself. [youtube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IQg65zCOLWw?ecver=2]
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Onward and Upward

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Hey everybody! Welcome to my new and improved website, which now hosts my Arrive project (check it!). I used to think that hosting a blog was just for my written word and I had a real big “uh doi” moment when I realized that I could post whatever I want, including audios and videos. This means some exciting changes here! In addition to my writings, I will now be posting my meditation teachings. But for those of you who enjoy my words, there will still be plenty of that. I am so thrilled to be entering this new chapter with you. And yes, it is about you, too. I want my blog to be a place where people can exchange ideas and thoughts, whether they are related to meditation and…
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Angry at Insomnia

Mindfulness
I finally slept last night. I broke down and took two Benadryl (usually too much for my delicate system) and conked out for nearly nine hours. For the previous six days my sleep had been interrupted, cut short, or just plain elusive. I used to suffer from insomnia, but in the last several years I have had the luxury of good sleep. Some of this I chalk up to my practice of mindfulness and meditation; to release all that anxiety and endless chatter of thoughts pretty much ensures one will sleep better. So what happened? I'm not really sure. I think it might have had something to do with recent changes in my goals and ambitions. I began to think of bigger possibilities and I must have simply gotten too…
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Why I Didn’t March

Why I Didn’t March

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I spent most of the week thinking I wouldn't go. Last winter, I suffered some pain, due to cold temperatures (I have some minor health issues) and the Saturday forecast for Santa Fe wasn't good: cold and snowy. But at some point, I considered just how cold I would really get – would I end up with a painful chilblain? Possibly. But this started to feel more important than toe pain. I couldn't let a little toe pain stop me, could I? Friday bloomed cold, bitter cold, and still I felt something inside me pushing me towards the march. Sacrifices are made every day in the name of protecting our rights: our rights to water, to health, to equality. And I thought: it's time for my sacrifice. Even if it hurts,…
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